The I'm stressed out and I need a place to vent thread - Page 105

Makes no Spence · 2010-11-02, 12:51 PM

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Originally Posted by The Conqueror Worm

Having Facebook relationships is kind of lame, anyhow. If it's serious, it is likely that everyone who matters already knows. Facebooking it is just kind of like doodling in a yearbook, "So-and-so likes Blah-dee-blah." It just looks kind of silly.

Maybe we're total dorks but the night we got married we were pretty excited to make it Facebook Official after the reception, hahaha.

Andy · 2010-11-02, 12:54 PM

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Originally Posted by Otto

SSRI withdrawal is good times.

Oh jesus, man, what's up? Is it on doctor's orders or did you run out?

Otto · 2010-11-02, 12:56 PM

We decided to discontinue it on a trial basis.

Brock Landers · 2010-11-02, 1:13 PM

Facebook relationship statuses are awesome and the best thing.

w3nch · 2010-11-02, 2:16 PM

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Originally Posted by Makes no Spence

Maybe we're total dorks but the night we got married we were pretty excited to make it Facebook Official after the reception, hahaha.

No, that's adorable and completely different from what we're talking about, I think. Marriage is a commitment - duh - so it really should be Facebook official.

At least personally, I was talking about every whackjob you go on a date with.

The Conqueror Worm · 2010-11-02, 2:21 PM

When someone wants to Facebook Relationship you after only a couple of dates, that's when you should run. It is a big red flag if you're not some crazy commitment whackadoo looking to get married right away. Same goes for meeting the parents!

Mandelbrot · 2010-11-02, 2:24 PM

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Originally Posted by The Conqueror Worm

When someone wants to Facebook Relationship you after only a couple of dates, that's when you should run. It is a big red flag if you're not some crazy commitment whackadoo looking to get married right away. Same goes for meeting the parents!

Ditto. That's crazy insane! After a couple dates, you're still getting to know each other and you're definitely not in any committed relationship by then. Run away as fast as you can!

OtakuJeb · 2010-11-02, 2:31 PM

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Originally Posted by Kaete

Yeah, and the ear isn't the only thing that can keep someone from being physically unable to hear/understand things.

I was tested multiple times for my hearing as a kid. But I wasn't hard or hearing - in fact I was over-sensitive to hearing. Eventually the doctors told my parents "oh she can hear you, she just doesn't want to listen to you." (Thanks a lot, doctors! What's next, are you off to go smack some left-handed child for not wanting to write with their right hand?)

Twenty years later, it turns out my chronic "What?" "Sorry, what was that?" "Come again?" was caused by a probable combination of ADD and actual auditory processing problems. Which my mom turned out to have as well, funny enough, so there may be some genetic component.

So yes, I'm listening when someone talks. But my brain also needs extra context to help translate the sounds - probably lip reading, body gesture, extra context from the overall conversation. If you suddenly just put out a non-sequitor comment my brain isn't expecting, or do it while there is extra noise complicating the sounds, it may take an extra second for my brain to translate - or I may not get it at all.

So. Yeah. If this is an actual problem in the relationship, or you feel like it's impacting her life/work, encourage her to get a hearing test. But don't assume she's just "not wanting to listen" even if the hearing test comes out fine.

It's okay to get annoyed by constantly repeating yourself. But I really do ask you to consider this - if you think it sucks having to say things twice, imagine hearing people talking to you all the time and not quite getting it, and having to ask them to repeat themselves. It's embarrassing and annoying all in one.

I have just Internet Diagnosed myself with this problem. If I'm not actively expecting someone to say something, it takes me a few seconds to process what was said. In the meantime, I probably already said, "What?" This is especially bad on the phone.

I don't know if it's related, but I'm also horrible at reading lips. It's like I NEED the two together in order to hear properly. It drives my wife crazy.

Mü0n · 2010-11-02, 3:44 PM

All you need to do is coordinate with the one you're getting into or out of a relationship with (easier for one of the two options...) and just insta-delete the news feed it will create. The status change will then be erased before anyone has time to see and respond to it.

edit - 2 instadeletes are required. For the news feed you provoke in both accounts, and for the news feed the other person provokes in both accounts.

w3nch · 2010-11-02, 4:56 PM

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Originally Posted by Mü0n

All you need to do is coordinate with the one you're getting into or out of a relationship with (easier for one of the two options...) and just insta-delete the news feed it will create. The status change will then be erased before anyone has time to see and respond to it.

Yeah...but it's still on your profile if you're getting into it! No no no and more no.

He accidentally met my parents. I think that's why he's so serious, among other issues, like craziness.

I'M STILL RANTING. When I got home from class, he was asleep on my bed so I had to be super quiet for like 3 hours and sneak around my room. This is crazy.

The Conqueror Worm · 2010-11-02, 5:01 PM

Stop doing that! Wake his ass up and just tell him you want to step things back a bit because he is trying to kick it into serious mode and you sound like you want something much more casual and relaxed.

REMEMBER KIDS: Just say "no" to meeting parents and Facebook status changes.

Kickflip Jones · 2010-11-02, 5:03 PM

I tell my mom about every poster on the forums and which ones she should troll

Kickflip Jones · 2010-11-02, 5:09 PM

Actually in all seriousness I never tell my mom about any girls I meet because as soon as I do I get asked "DO YOU LIKE HER???"

A Jaunty Romp · 2010-11-02, 5:26 PM

Also you shouldn't lie to your mother.

Default_Messiah · 2010-11-02, 5:28 PM

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Originally Posted by w3nch

He accidentally met my parents. I think that's why he's so serious, among other issues, like craziness.

I'M STILL RANTING. When I got home from class, he was asleep on my bed so I had to be super quiet for like 3 hours and sneak around my room. This is crazy.

Ho,ho,ho whoa, that sounds pretty wacky. Though, by 'wacky', I mean, 'actually kind of scary'.

I mean, is he at least... well adjusted? Do you think he's at least an emotionally stable person and wouldn't do something kind of 'rash' if you let him know in uncertain terms how you felt?

Bloody Jack · 2010-11-02, 5:44 PM

Don't date whackjobs

Bloody Jack · 2010-11-02, 5:46 PM

Also, be careful with the letting them down easy thing. Some (many?) guys may take that as you being hesitant and not really sure you want to kick their ass out of your life, and redouble their efforts to convince you that you really want to stay together.

The Conqueror Worm · 2010-11-02, 5:49 PM

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Originally Posted by Bloody Jack

Don't date whackjobs

Also, don't date forumites.

Napalm Morning · 2010-11-02, 5:54 PM

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Originally Posted by Meatrocket Jones

Actually in all seriousness I never tell my mom about any girls I meet because as soon as I do I get asked "DO YOU LIKE HER???"

Haha that's how it is with my grandparents...

I still think your mom is pretty awesome the few times that I've met her.

Gliss · 2010-11-02, 6:06 PM

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Originally Posted by whaler

One of my best friends in college had that same problem Kaete. He'd usually just go huh? or make some other noise and then respond to what you said after processing it, so most of the time I never bothered repeating myself I'd just patiently wait haha. We all just got used to it and eventually didn't even really notice.

He was tested for it and got a special registration date for classes haha since it's considered a learning disability but he college.

Haha jeez. I do this and for the most part nobody notices or just sort of rolls with it but once in a while it drives someone bananas. I don't mean to! I sort of assumed this was just me being spacey.

Davmeister84 · 2010-11-02, 6:07 PM

I am feel under the weather and need to get some work done. It's frustrating as hell having these sorts of issues to sort through while getting the job done.

Marcipan · 2010-11-02, 6:11 PM

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Originally Posted by Meatrocket Jones

Actually in all seriousness I never tell my mom about any girls I meet because as soon as I do I get asked "DO YOU LIKE HER???"

When we hung out, didn't she just ask if I was old?

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Originally Posted by The Conqueror Worm

Also, don't date forumites.

Good advice.

Kickflip Jones · 2010-11-02, 6:48 PM

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Originally Posted by Marcipan

When we hung out, didn't she just ask if I was old?

Yes, but after I got back from the meet she asked me if I liked you.

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Originally Posted by Napalm Morning

I still think your mom is pretty awesome the few times that I've met her.

She is cool! She's just Italian, that's all

Kounetsu · 2010-11-02, 6:55 PM

yay 60hr work week.

Sully · 2010-11-02, 6:59 PM

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Originally Posted by w3nch

He accidentally met my parents. I think that's why he's so serious, among other issues, like craziness.

I'M STILL RANTING. When I got home from class, he was asleep on my bed so I had to be super quiet for like 3 hours and sneak around my room. This is crazy.

This is actually remarkably like how my mom met one of my ex-es for the first time.

We had just begun dating, and I had just had a car accident which immobilized my left arm. Then-girlfriend stopped by early morning to see if I needed help with anything. I drag her into bed.

Well my Mom also stopped by to see if I needed help. And just waltzes on in to my bedroom because my still-drunk alcoholic roommate lets her in. Sees the two of us in bed, cuddling, obviously naked. Mother runs out screaming. I was going to bring the girl to dinner so she could meet my family that night.

I walk in the door, and the first thing my stepdad says is "Well, I hear all the important parts still work."

2010-11-02, 12:56 PM	#2603
Otto Cars and Freedom Join Date: Aug 2005 Location: Dallas, TX	We decided to discontinue it on a trial basis. __________________ A Couple of Things America Got Right

2010-11-02, 2:21 PM	#2606
The Conqueror Worm midwestern Join Date: Jun 2007 Location: North Aurora, Illinois	When someone wants to Facebook Relationship you after only a couple of dates, that's when you should run. It is a big red flag if you're not some crazy commitment whackadoo looking to get married right away. Same goes for meeting the parents! __________________ wandering boy wandering for so long don't you know we may never find our way home

2010-11-02, 3:44 PM	#2609
Mü0n Herald of Dawn of War 2 Join Date: Aug 2005 Location: ▂▅▇██████▓▒░◕‿&#	All you need to do is coordinate with the one you're getting into or out of a relationship with (easier for one of the two options...) and just insta-delete the news feed it will create. The status change will then be erased before anyone has time to see and respond to it. edit - 2 instadeletes are required. For the news feed you provoke in both accounts, and for the news feed the other person provokes in both accounts. __________________ Last edited by Mü0n; 2010-11-02 at 5:58 PM.

2010-11-02, 5:01 PM	#2611
The Conqueror Worm midwestern Join Date: Jun 2007 Location: North Aurora, Illinois	Stop doing that! Wake his ass up and just tell him you want to step things back a bit because he is trying to kick it into serious mode and you sound like you want something much more casual and relaxed. REMEMBER KIDS: Just say "no" to meeting parents and Facebook status changes. __________________ wandering boy wandering for so long don't you know we may never find our way home

2010-11-02, 5:44 PM	#2616
Bloody Jack Fly, Spacebat! Fly! Join Date: Aug 2005 Location: High Fivin' the Moon	Don't date whackjobs __________________ . The Littlest Astronaut .

2010-11-02, 1:13 PM	#2604
Brock Landers MOTORIN'! Join Date: Aug 2005 Location: Houston AKA: NeoRaven, M Nght Shamajoe	Facebook relationship statuses are awesome and the best thing.

2010-11-02, 5:03 PM	#2612
Kickflip Jones Coolest kid in school. Join Date: Aug 2005 AKA: Buzzard, Slowpoke. Meatrocket Jones, The Mark Sanchez Variety Hour	I tell my mom about every poster on the forums and which ones she should troll

2010-11-02, 5:09 PM	#2613
Kickflip Jones Coolest kid in school. Join Date: Aug 2005 AKA: Buzzard, Slowpoke. Meatrocket Jones, The Mark Sanchez Variety Hour	Actually in all seriousness I never tell my mom about any girls I meet because as soon as I do I get asked "DO YOU LIKE HER???"

2010-11-02, 5:26 PM	#2614
A Jaunty Romp radical! Join Date: Dec 2007 AKA: Kwazyman	Also you shouldn't lie to your mother.

2010-11-02, 5:46 PM	#2617
Bloody Jack Fly, Spacebat! Fly! Join Date: Aug 2005 Location: High Fivin' the Moon	Also, be careful with the letting them down easy thing. Some (many?) guys may take that as you being hesitant and not really sure you want to kick their ass out of your life, and redouble their efforts to convince you that you really want to stay together. __________________ . The Littlest Astronaut .

2010-11-02, 6:07 PM	#2621
Davmeister84 Dark and Full of Terrors Join Date: Aug 2005	I am feel under the weather and need to get some work done. It's frustrating as hell having these sorts of issues to sort through while getting the job done. __________________ Beware my power, Green Lantern's light

2010-11-02, 6:55 PM	#2624
Kounetsu Watch them harder!! Join Date: Sep 2005 Location: Villa Tesei, Argentina	yay 60hr work week. __________________ En un pais de mudos, Se escucha un gran silencio. {O.o};;;